You’ll know if he’s the right guy for you if adds to your shine.
This is the question that many single women ask themselves. Sure, it’s fun to date around and meet different people. But there will come a time when we’ll want to settle down. So how can we know if we have found “The One?”
There are four main signs if you have found your guy:
He helps you become a better person.
We are all stars in our own right. Our responsibility is to find the talents and skills that can make us shine brightest and to polish them. There are people who will take away your shine. These are the negative people who will only pull you back. You’ll know if he’s the right guy for you if adds to your shine. If you can become a better person because of him then there’s a good chance that you have found your match.
His personality complements yours.
You are a unique being. There is no other person in this world exactly like you. You’ll know if you’ve found the person you are meant to be with when he complements your personality. His strengths are your weaknesses. Your weaknesses are his strengths.
He is willing to brave out the storms of life with you.
Marriage is supposed to be for better or for worse. But according to statistics, most couple’s are only willing to stick it out during the good times. When the going gets tough they call their lawyer and file for divorce. You’ll know if you have found your guy when he is willing to stick to you for better or for worse. If he is willing to fight for you and to fight with you. Commitment is vital in a relationship. Without commitment, no relationship can ever hope to last.
It just feels right.
I know that feelings are very intangible. But I believe that you’ll know when you’ve met your match because it feels right. You can’t explain it. You may not understand it. But it’s a feeling you just have. When it comes to selecting your mate, go with your gut.
No relationship is perfect. And there is no “happily ever after” because all relationships are an ongoing process. If you want to make it work, you have to do your part. But first, start by selecting the right partner.
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I have heard from several very level-headed, professional single moms that when they met their second husbands they experienced that magical ‘just know’ feeling. I recently broke up with a great love after one year. I often told him that I had a great feeling about him when I saw his online profile, and when he walked into the bar for that first date I just knew I would have a relationship with him — but not forever. And that is just what happened. It is hard to always listen to our guts, but they rarely lead us astray.
Emma
Excellent post and the most truthful part is, you will just know. I met my husband Feb 2009 and we were married on May 1st, 2009. We just knew it was right and fell madly in love. Some people claim you cannot fall in love that quickly, but we did. We have been together since and now have 2 babies (a total of 5 children I had 3 children when he met me) and he is the very best daddy I could ever wish for my children to have. We very rarely bicker and even then we normally end up laughing it off. He is truly my very best friend and I couldn’t imagine my life with anyone else. That is how you know. If you do not have things in common, do not do it because it will never last! That is how my first husband and I ended up divorcing – we were nothing along and opposites really do not attract. Everything I enjoyed drove him nuts and I hated the things he enjoyed. Great post!
Hi Dan . I can relate to every bit of your share . We often keep on looking for signals to zero down to someone as Mr Right . Complementing personalities and commitment to be with you even in the hardest of times as indeed sure enough signs to conclude that he is the one you have been looking for all these years. Engrossing share .
I agree with the sentiment in: “He helps you become a better person.” But I think it’s important to distinguish this from the trap women fall into far too often (ahem, myself included) of busting our butts to become a better person *for* our man. When it’s right you both add to each others shine because it’s the natural thing to do!
It’s a fine line, isn’t it? Your partner (male or female) should accept you for you and vice-versa. But they should also (in a perfect world) inspire you to want to be better, too!
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This is a fantastic post. I think many people complicate “The One” issue though. I think they are looking for that elusive overromanticized notion of love and forget, love is a choice. It is not a feeling. If you look at it like when it gets rough you need to break up, you will never find that one and stick with it. Most people forget it is “for better or worse” in the marriage vows. The best line indicative of what is going on today comes out of the movie “The Invention of lying”…. The preacher asks ” Do you take this woman for as long as you want to”…. That is why we can’t find “the one”…..
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