I'm Only Bragging a Little
You know, I consider myself to be a pretty lucky…no, check that, a VERY lucky guy. I dated for years with little success – hence the ‘Dating Game‘ stories I’ve been telling for a few years now. No offense to those few relationships that I did have along the way – I value them most sincerely because they helped me grow as a dater, a parent and as a person. But let’s face it, dating isn’t the goal, it’s the means to an end for most of us (myself included).
I got SUPER lucky when JenB picked me on PlentyOfFish.com out of a seemingly random and endless sea of online daters. JenB is the complete package for me – she’s super sweet, she’s got a great heart, she’s hot, she LOVES football, she’s a great cook, a great mom, a great person and (for whatever reason) she feels the same way about me! I’m one lucky guy that I found my very own HOT MOM.
One of the things I love best about Jen is her sense of humor. I can be a little – well, a little guy-ish at times. Not too bad, but it leaks out of me sometimes. Jen laughs when I call her my hot mom and just kinda lets it roll off. She obviously knows that she’s a mom but she doesn’t consider herself “hot”, per se. Sure, she’s cute – you know, in a girl-next-door kinda way, she says. Which I totally agree that she is! But she just does it for me in all aspects of her looks and personality.
It makes me wonder, though. I know Jen is ok with it – it’s one of our inside jokes. Sure, I’m sensitive sometimes and tell Jen WHY she’s my hot mom, too. I don’t eye her up and down like a ribeye every day. Well, not that she notices, anyway. What do you think? Is something better than nothing when it comes to compliments or would you rather men just stick with more traditional compliments like ‘beautiful’, ‘gorgeous’, ‘head-turner’ and similar compliments? What about single vs. married moms – does your status factor in somehow? Is it demeaning to a mom to call her a hot mom? What about married moms – do you find it a compliment to be called ‘hot’?
Poll: What do you think of phrases like “hot hot mom”, “MILF”, etc?
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I agree with “hot mom” being better than “MILF”. I personally don’t like being looked at or spoken to like I am something to eat. I appreciate compliments and have been flattered by “MILF” in certain contexts but it is all in how it’s said. I also think, in a relationship context, it should be balanced out by compliments that are not in any way sexual in nature. I’m all for feeling like a hot piece of ass occasionally but not all the time by the one I’m in love with.
Thanks, Jess – your comment made me LOL.
I must be pathetically old fashioned… I find MILF to be offensive enough so that I don’t use the term. My assumption is that most women would be unhappy with being referred to as a MILF. Learn something new every day.
@newsingledad Ya know, I thought the same thing! That’s why I put up the poll. Because sometimes we THINK we know, but we don’t.
Even beautiful can sound ugly. Depends on the circumstances and who’s saying it, but in general I don’t find either one demeaning,personally.
@cmajaski Would you say that context is key and can be the difference between an, “Aw, thanks!” and a slap on the face?
@M_oa_SD Sure. Was not happy when a bunch of kids yelled out MILF MILF while my daughter was w/me. MILF is a tough one in it’s literal sense. Hot mom is a lot safer.
BIG difference between “Hot Mom” and “MILF” with the latter risking being offensive. I am very un-PC but that one does strike me a not cool.
@BruceSallan Yeah, after you do the ‘translation’, it takes on a whole other meaning, that’s for sure!